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Elysia V. Thorne's avatar

Kern, I don't always pay attention to my notifications; I just have too many. I'm glad I did today, though. First, I received your excellent advice on writing a memoir (the three tips) and then I read this because of that piece. (Aside: have you seen the show The Lake [I think that's the title]? It's about a gay dad who first enters his daughter's life when she's already a teen, and gets summer custody of her, and how it changes them both. I'd call it a dramedy: funny, touching on serious themes with some poignant and/or stressful moments, but with an 'everything ends well' kind of vibe.)

As I was saying, though, your writing and this piece are both incredible, and you have earned a new fan, well-deserved.

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Sariah's avatar

Wonderful, engaging story. From the very first sentence was I completely captivated and felt every emotion poured into this piece. Thank you for sharing!

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Brenna's avatar

Beautiful piece ✨

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Dawood's avatar

Wow; eyes are tearing up and just one thought is occupying the entire brain and that is be patient to bring happiness and freedom from the pain ( both physical as well as emotional)

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Joelle Tamraz's avatar

Such a beautiful, moving story. I love hearing about fathers who want to take care of their daughters. That makes such a huge difference for a girl.

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Etya Krichmar's avatar

You write beautifully, Kern. The story was gripping from start to finish. I could not stop reading. Thanks for sharing.

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Kern Carter's avatar

Thank you for reading 🙏🏾

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Ashley@Briefly's avatar

I have been through something similar and struggle to find a way to tell my story without risking further drama/damage even though it's been over 5 years since all of it... fear about the people involved being hurt or hurting me is the biggest writer's block I've ever had. So I am curious about any advice you have now that it's many years later still... do you regret anything you've written? Do you wish you said more, or said things differently?

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Kern Carter's avatar

No regrets at all, Ashley. My story has touched more people than it's made uncomfortable and for me, personally, has helped put some closure on something that was heavy on my heart. That said, it took me years to write about this so take your time.

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Holly Starley's avatar

Truly beautiful piecr.

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Deborah DiClementi's avatar

This is such a brave piece-touching and true.

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